Tuesday, March 6, 2012

the 5 love languages.. of adults and children

Have any of you read the book "The 5 Love Languages, The Secret to Love That Lasts"? It's pretty much amazing. After reading this book I also read "The 5 Love Languages of Children". 

I truly believe the concept of these books. It makes complete sense. If you don't love your spouse or children in their love language then they wont feel the love you are giving them.

"Your emotional love language and the language of you spouse may be as different as Chinese from English"

Now just in case you haven't read the book here are the 5 love languages::

Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch


My love language is physical touch followed closely by words of affirmation. Curtis' is acts of service. I can definitely see that when Curtis' speaks my love language and I speak his we are much happier. 

"If your spouse's primary love language is physical touch, nothing is more important than holding her as she cries."

Same goes with Children, when you speak their love language and feel loved they are more likely to behave and listen. Not fool proof of course. Children are going to act out and misbehave. It's their way of communicating before they know how to do it with their words. But it definitely helps.


Brooke's love language of course is going to change throughout the years but right now her love languages are physical touch and quality time. When you take the time to take her to the park or to the aquarium or read her books she is always happier. 

And of course we can't forget physical touch. This one is easy for me. I love giving kisses and snuggling with my little girl. It's my favorite!

I would definitely recommend this book to any and every one! 

"Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself."


Katie said...

I read this book in high school and my love language was quality time. but do you think love languages can change? While that one is still up there for me I think now I more need words of affirmation. I should read it again!

Nathan and Kaitlin said...

Love this!

Ashley said...

I totally believe in this, too! My husband and I did this last summer. I can't remember what his is (OOPS!), but mine was gifts, which made a lot of sense to me. I always hated Christmas until I met my husband, mostly because we never had a lot of set traditions growing up, and my mama was never very good at giving thoughtful presents (as in, she never wrapped them, and I love the element of surprise that comes with a wrapped gift). Ah, I hope that doesn't make me sound like a brat...I love my mama and appreciated her gifts, but she is more of a physical touch person, I think, and I am not (except with my husband).

My husband, however, is a great gift giver and always surprised me! He always surprises me with the most wonderful presents, whether it is a a mixed CD with songs about birds (Byrd is my maiden name) or my KitchenAid Mixer...and he tries to wrap them beautifully. He even tried using ribbon this Christmas because he knows I LOVE it!

Ashley said...

I am in the process of reading this book right now and I love it! I had no idea there was one about children. I will have to read that next. :)

claire said...

I've heard of this book. Definitely want to read it! I LOVE that second to last picture of Brooklynn. Her smile is so sweet. :)